Make your fear a true friend
Everytime I am reading or writing something on self help, this word fear keeps overpowering my thoughts. I read it somewhere that the true cause of fear of a human is its evolutionary and survival prone brain which always makes you judge, perceive, choose, decide out of fear.
The child tends to learn due to the fear of either a punishment or not displeasing his/her parents, the adolescent acts to shape their identity due to the fear of acceptance by the peer group, the youth is in fear of getting a job opportunity to match up the expectations of parents and society, the adult is in fear of losing his respect, status and relationships, the middle aged are living the life of fear of not being able to do anything that they always wanted to do, the old age living in the fear of losing their relevance and worth in the family and society.
Every stage of our life is plagued by some form of fear, but all the spiritual thinkers and leaders talk about living a love filled joyful life, but fear and joy cannot co exist in a human mind. Somehow it is also assumed that its the fear that drives human to deliver unexpected outcomes and makes him/her perform beyond their comfort zones. If there were no fear of missing out, people will not shake themselves for extra efforts.
I thought let me feel a life where their is no fear of belonging, performing, behaving, surviving in a way which is not acceptable to me but thriving through a life of being in the joy of living, would I still wake up at 5 AM, do regular exercise routine, call up my mother and son to chekc how well they slept last night, sit for a coffee with my spouse, eat healthy breakfast, reach office at exact 10 AM, work meticulously as per the directions received from authority, come back only after 5 PM and then do the household chores and then go shopping for healthy eatables and purchase clothing to suit the professional attire and then go for that compulsive walk and go to sleep exactly at 10 PM.
Is my healthy eating, sleeping and exercising related to the fear of being accepted, enhancing the years of life, being healthy, performing at the workplace for the fear of not being recognised or being termed irresponsible?
So I felt like imagining a day when all these fears of social norms of fitting in are removed, how will I like to live my day? I had to push my brain to work a lot to be able to imagine such a day. At least for this moment I felt like leaving all in the exact place and vanish for few days in some place of non existence and re discover it all from a fresher perspective, clear all the stored memory and start from a new chapter for a new vision and a clearer mission of life.
